Today we’re talking about the five most common mindset blocks that can hold us back from reaching our health goals, and how to overcome them!
“Hey guys, Amber here! Today we’re kicking off a new weekly column in conjunction with the Fed & Fit Project all about mindset, nutrition, and fitness!”
Since Fed & Fit is mainly a recipe and nutrition focused blog, people are often surprised to learn that the number one pillar of the Fed & Fit Project isnโt food, but mindset! A healthy, balanced mindset is the most important key to success. It is also one of the hardest components to address. Making a temporary change in your food may be difficult for a time, but the real work comes in finding a sustainable, healthy lifestyle.
While The Project starts with a temporary reset, the ultimate goal is to arrive at your Perfect You Plan. In this stage, you will find what foods do and donโt work best for you (free of dietary dogma!), and shed the guilt around your food choices so you can simply enjoy your life without worrying about the cupcake you ate for your birthday or wondering whether you really should eat dairy.
Here are a few ways that your mindset may be getting in the way of your health goals:
You Feel Like Failure is Inevitable
Perhaps you are embarking on a new diet, fitness plan, or mindset practice and you feel ready to commit to it, and maybe even a little bit excited! However, you might also have that little voice in the back of your head that tells you it isnโt going to work. Maybe youโve been dieting for as long as you remember and have never found a plan that sticks. Or, perhaps nothing has worked for you so far despite your commitment and compliance to many programs, and you donโt know if anything ever will.
Creating new habits is hard. Making a long-lasting lifestyle shift is even harder. As you continue through a program, this voice will get even louder and derail you. Once youโre derailed, you may beat yourself up for letting this happen again, and feel so defeated that you just walk away.
Hereโs the thing, if you go into something thinking youโre going to fail, you almost always will. It is so important to assess this before starting a program. Working on resetting your mindset will take you so far toward actually finding something that does work and does stick!
You Donโt Believe You Have Enough Time
This is a BIG one in our society today, and trust me, I get it! We are busy, trying to juggle working, being a good mom, a good wife, and a good friend all while running a million errands. So finding time to cook, work out and even just drink water seems impossible.
This overwhelm can lead to a negative attitude that stems from a collision of confused priorities and unclear plans. Positive, can-do people tend to have a relatively firm grasp on their priorities and take steps to align their time and actions accordingly. When priorities are unclear and efforts to improve are disorganized, it can be difficult to track progress in a constructive, positive manner.
To clear up the confusion, make a list of all of the activities you do in a week, then rank those activities according to importance. Where does your health and the activities related to it fall on this priority list? See what you can move around to make time for things like cooking and working out. Even if you find the only thing you can logically fit in right now is drinking more water, start there, and add on as you can.
Approaching these changes with a plan, and knowing that you have time to make it happen, will alleviate stress and help keep you from throwing in the towel at the first sign of overwhelm.
You Havenโt Set Meaningful Goals
We almost always embark on fitness and nutrition challenges with a goal in mind. These goals often look like losing weight, resolving joint pain, ending sugar cravings, having more energy, gaining more muscle, etc. etc. However, I encourage you to dig deeper into these goals and find your why.
Do you want to lose weight so you can gain more energy to play with your kids? Do you want to end your sugar cravings so that you can stop feeling controlled by food and free up that mental space for something that you are truly excited about? Do you want to reduce your joint pain because you love hiking and desperately want to be able to incorporate it back into your life?
Finding the deeper goal can help you understand why these changes are worth it in the long run. This way, when youโre in the middle of detoxing from sugar and thinking of giving up, you can recall that meaningful goal and remember why you are doing this.
Youโre Afraid of Success
This one digs a little bit deeper, and you may be wondering how it is possible to be afraid of success, but many of us are! Fear of success may be an underlying reason you havenโt found what works for you yet. Here, Iโm talking about those questions that haunt many of us: โAm I even worthy? Am I worth the effort, the trials, the errors, the grace, the patience, and the success?โ Or, maybe you are afraid to imagine what would happen for you if you were successful, because you are worried about the changes that will occur.
Ask yourself these questions out loud or on paper and give yourself the answer you deserve: yes. Yes, you are worth every single minute and every single effort. Youโre worth it all, and you need to remember that. Donโt let a fear of success keep you from living a life you deserve to live. Write it on your bathroom mirror in lipstick, plant handwritten notes in your jacket pockets, and set a โyou are so worth itโ daily alarm on your phone for when you need reminding.
You Arenโt Fully Committed
Commitment encompasses your determination, plan, follow-through, and consistency. The plan is often crafted for you, but your determination, follow-through, and consistency is up to you! Failed perfection and unmet expectations are commitmentโs kryptonite. Therefore, letโs start with manageable expectations and the understanding that weโre working toward progress, not perfection. Consistency is key, and determination is your map. If you go off course, thereโs no need to give up, just continue doing your best and keep working at it every day. It will feel like work at first, but just like building muscle or learning a new sport, it gets easier and more intuitive with time. Youโve got this!
Note: For a deeper dive into these topics, you can check out the Fed & Fit Book.ย
Great article! I definitely loop back every so often to being afraid of succeeding. Sometimes itโs the attention that comes from others, even when itโs positive, that can cause me to back step. But I definitely know Iโm worth the work and maybe this introvert will learn how to handle more attention than wanted