Graysen Joy’s Birth Story

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Today I’m sharing the sweet story of new life! It’s an honor to tell you about the days leading up to and a few days after the birth of our first baby, Graysen Joy. I hope you enjoy.

newborn Graysen Joy

In my 7+ years of blogging, this post officially wins the award for the most procrastinated ever.

I put off sharing Gray’s birth story for a few reasons. First, I really just wanted to focus on LIVING the start of our lives together vs. reflecting on them. I hope that makes sense. This feeling makes me think back on an old(ish) John Mayer song, “3×5” …

Didn’t have a camera by my side this time
Hoping I would see the world with both my eyes
Maybe I will tell you all about it when
I’m in the mood to lose my way

The 2nd reason I put off sharing her birth story is because I wasn’t quite ready to invite feedback (or opinions) on our personal decisions. Pregnancy, birth, and child rearing are all exceptionally CHARGED topics. There are quality + well-meaning STRONG opinions on every drastically different end of the spectrum. The decisions we made as a family are personal and I OWN THEM. If I had to re-live everything over again, I wouldn’t change a single thing. Know that there’s a good chance you’ll read something in this post that you disagree with …and that is OKAY. Regardless of our personal prevailing opinions, I think that we can all agree that pregnancy, birth, and parenting is PERSONAL. Suum cuique – to each his (or her) own. #latinnerd

Quick observation: the need to disclaim the conventional medical decisions we made as a family is so interesting to me. I’m still chewing on this. In our health-is-best world (which I’m proud to be a part of), I find that the landscape often becomes a competition for who can “natural” best. No real thought here, just a half-formed observation.

In summary: I hope you can read our story with an open mind. These details are not an invitation for you to share judgement or advice. OR, as Amy Poehler says, “good for you, not for me.” 

Now that we have those pesky notes out of the way, I think it’s appropriate to set the stage for the current setting BEFORE I jump into this story of new life! I’m currently sitting in a coffee shop, next to a (glorious) HOT cappuccino, ignoring my massive unread inbox, while Graysen is at home with my hubby. She’s 4 months + 2 weeks 5 months + 2 weeks old and thinking of her gummy smile and chubby legs makes my heart flutter. Austin (my husband) and I have told her birth story to close friends + family members so many times now, that we’ve got the “routine” down. You know the routine? It’s probably the way YOUR parents tell YOU about the day you were born. The less fun details are lost with time and instead, you get to enjoy the exciting movie trailer version of how you came into the world.

My goal with this post is to give a mix between the gritty truth and the glamorous movie trailer.

Here we go…

The Days Before Her Birth

Like all birth stories, Gray’s started coming together long before her actual arrival. Her due date was January 13, 2018, which came and went in the blink of an eye. I felt great and our sweet baby was still enjoying her snuggly home inside my belly. Winter weather + flu season were in full swing; I couldn’t blame her for wanting to wait it out a little longer in her safe, cozy home. I had a very easy pregnancy (for which, I’m beyond thankful) and even with careful monitoring by our team of medical professionals, nobody was really concerned by the pregnancy running long. When I was at about 39 weeks pregnant, our doctor (who we trust) asked us when we’d like to schedule our induction if she didn’t make her arrival “on time.” Our response was, “well, we’d really prefer to wait as long as we can …as long as there are no health concerns.” I trusted my body, trusted our baby, and trusted that our medical professionals will keep us alerted to any relevant complications.

Long story short, we were complication-free, but decided that we’d schedule an induction on our 12th day “overdue.” Though our past-due sonograms all showed that she had PLENTY of amniotic fluid (it can start to decrease the longer a pregnancy goes) and that the placenta looked to be in great health, we still decided to schedule. As much as I believe in trusting my body + nature + God’s design, I also trust solid data. The data we reviewed when making our decision to induce included a sharp decline in placental health at 42 weeks pregnant. Austin and I didn’t want to toy with where we may fall on the spectrum, so we scheduled our induction for just shy of 42 weeks.

Little did I know, I’d show up at the hospital on the day of my induction already in early labor.

Are you thinking that our due date may have been inaccurate? The thought crossed all our minds but I still firmly believe that if anything, her true due date was sooner, not later.

My Birth Plan Wishes

When planning (or rather, preparing for) our birth, I started taking stock of all the “I wish I had…” sentiments I’d ever encountered with regard to birthing babies. The most common regrets I encountered had NOTHING to do with intervention do’s/don’t’s, doulas or midwives present/not-present, essential oils used/not used, etc. Nope, the overwhelmingly most common “regret” I encountered was “it didn’t go as planned.” These sweet, sweet mamas made their Birth Plan (like we feel we’re supposed to), dotted their I’s, crossed their T’s, relayed their plan to the entire birthing team, and then …you-know-what hit the fan. Because of unpredictable circumstances, they were left feeling out of control and outside the margins of THE PLAN. Even though they had perfectly healthy, happy, vibrant babies and their health was also beautifully in-tact, they still felt like they had somehow failed. They failed their birth plan because the real events didn’t follow their expectations.

I took this to heart and used it as fuel for my own “plan.” My own plan was instead to have a set of wishes (to read: our preferences), but ultimately, healthy baby + healthy mamma are priority over all others. Here’s how our wishes read in order of priority:

  1. Healthy baby + healthy mamma.
  2. As little worry or stress as possible for everyone involved (as in: it was important for me that my husband also have a good experience). In the event of a stressful situation, we will rely on: our faith, the team of vetted/trusted medical professionals, and our parents for perspective.
  3. The other wishes included things like: when we want to bathe our baby, what kind of intervention we want and when, the diapers we prefer, cord clamping preferences, etc. If you’d like to see our detailed “birth wishes” (as in, the actual sheet we shared with family + our birthing team), please let me know! I can possibly share it in another post.

What Actually Happened

Now for the story!

I spent the days before Gray’s birthday (January 25, 2018) drinking buckets of red raspberry leaf tea, eating dates, and doing my “get the baby into position” movements with the birthing ball. I have vivid memories of sitting/leaning on that birthing ball for hours in our living room, next to a plate of dates (+peanut butter, honey, and sea salt) and a big cup of tea, as I started watching Grey’s Anatomy (I’m SO late to the party). My mindset at the time was: “babies are born on their birthday.” I was more comfortable than I would have expected and in NO rush to meet her. That being said, I still wanted to do my part to help get my body ready for her arrival.

The calendar started ticking away. About 4 days before her birth, I remember reaching the end of my “before baby” to-do list (I never actually thought I’d get to the bottom of that list). Not having a lot to do made me feel a little uncomfortable, because I’m most comfortable when being productive, but I realized that this quiet time was getting a head start on molding my heart for the quiet, sweet moments to come.

The night before our scheduled induction, my Mom and Dad (who live just 10 minutes from us), invited us over for dinner. My Dad broke out a bottle of lovely champaign (sparking grape juice for me) and my whole family raised a glass to Graysen Joy, the first in this next generation of the Garcia family. We gave thanks for her health, my health, and for the untold blessings to come.

That memory of sweet, anticipatory celebration is forever engrained in my memory. Sitting there with a giant belly, giggling with my family, and being the first to wish her a happy early birthday. Gosh, it was so special. I made the decision to “go dark” on social media that night because (again, like John Mayer), I wanted to experience our story before I told it. You all were so kind, gracious, and respectful of that. I can’t thank you enough for giving us that precious space.

That night, I showered, blew out my hair, laid out my clothes for the hospital, and fell asleep holding my husband’s hand over my belly. Soon. We get to meet her so, so soon.

If you want to know what I brought to the hospital, click HERE for the clothing, technology, snacks, etc. that I packed.

My alarm went off at at 6:30 the morning of January 25 (Thursday). Austin was already up and had cooked us up a wonderful breakfast (he even made me lemony kale, my favorite!). The whole morning happened in slow motion. I remember settling on an extra swipe of mascara because I thought that I may wear it for a few days – which I did! We climbed in the car, took our place in a bit of traffic, and were completely at peace. There are about 6 different ways we could have navigated to the hospital and Austin, like a good Dad-to-be, had scouted out his favorite/speediest path. Settling into the downhill slide to Gray’s birth felt like we were able to finally sit back and enjoy all our preparations. We had our birth wishes, our bags were carefully packed, our prayers said, our families all looped-in, a healthy home waiting, and a healthy body (mine + her’s) cared-for. It was time to hand all our careful work over to God. He’s in charge from here out and I was honored to be along for the ride.

We were ready for anything and (I really mean this) knowing that the day could have gone in 1,000 different directions, I felt no entitlement to any one path. I was just excited to see how our joined story would unfold.

Arriving at the hospital, Austin offered to drop me off at the door, but I told him I’d rather walk with him into the building. We parked in the nearby garage, stepped out into the breezy 50 degree F morning, and held hands on our way in. We navigated to Labor & Delivery, gave a cheerful “good morning!” to the nursing staff, Austin cracked a joke about trading some baked goods for their best room, and we were ushered to the room where we’d meet Gray. Not wasting any time, the nurse handed me my gown + slippers and I got dressed. Feeling REALLY great (no pain), Austin and I settled into the massive room. The staff came over to check my progress and noted that, though my water hadn’t broken, I was actually already in labor! HA! I giggled and appreciated the small “you’re right where you need to be” wink from God.

The contractions were pretty mild and, though I’d noted some discomfort that morning, I chalked it up to just being enormously pregnant.

Gray’s heart rate was in good shape, my BP in a nice range, and all other signs pointed to “let’s do this.” Because contractions were pretty mild, we decided to go-ahead with the planned pitocin drip to help strengthen the process. Contractions continued to be relatively mild and I felt great. My Mom and Dad arrived at the hospital mid-morning and we all settled in for some fun chit-chat in-between checks. Though we’d decided to be pro-intervention (epidural), I really wanted to experience some labor pains first. At around 11:00 a.m. that morning, we decided with our doctor to break the water ….and THAT is when it all really-really started.

Note: overshare-adverse, PROCEED WITH CAUTION (you’ve been warned).

First of all, I had no idea what to expect when they broke my water. Would it be painful? Would there be a tidal wave? A tiny dribble? How much water are we talking? Turns out, it was a more of a modest “leak.” The nurses gave me a towel to sit on which we changed about every 45 minutes. I remember thinking, “well that’s a polite amount of water.” I now understand that there was a heck of a lot more in there, baby girl’s head was just plugging the hole.

Due to the pitocin and my own natural labor progressing (pretty quickly), contractions started coming on HARD AND FAST. They were no joke. I remember my sweet Dad sitting in the room, after my 1st painful contraction, asking “was that an ouchie?” The memory of his sweet, oozing with Dad-love question still makes me smile. Yep, that was an ouchie. After about 10 more, I was ready to call the doctor. I wanted to take my place on the waitlist for an epidural.

We waited for 45 minutes before the doctor could come by to administer the epidural. In that time, GOODNESS, those were intense contractions (the pitocin made things more painful). I remember sitting on the edge of my bed, breathing through each one (per my preparation), holding both of Austin’s hands (white knuckles), and tapping into a deep “I’m made to do this” belief. It was pretty darn neat (in retrospect) but also NO JOKE in the moment. The Anesthesiologist came in and told me (scolded me?) that I needed to “HOLD STILL.” Of course, I logically understood the importance of this, but YOU DON’T FEEL WHAT I FEEL. I managed to hold it together while he inserted the needle, tube, then medicine. Glorious relief swept over me and I said a prayer of thanks for modern medicine.

After a little time, the nurses came in to re-check Gray’s heart rate. It was slightly concerning so they wanted to make sure they had a really good read. Because the belly strap wasn’t holding still very well, we decided to implant a monitor in her head. NOTE: this whole thing really freaked me out, but I had peace around wanting to make sure she was A-okay. The monitor is actually fixed via a teeny-tiny screw (I must have asked my husband 27 times to describe the screw when he saw them pull it out of the package) to the top of her head. Though it sounds freaky, this secures it in the top of her head via just a few layers of skin so that they can keep track of her. They kept me turned on different sides to help her little ticker and then took me OFF pitocin while also giving me Terbutaline, the antidote to pitocin. Apparently, my own labor + the pitocin caused everything to come on WAY too strong and too fast for me and baby. After the medicines cancelled each other out, my natural hormones took control and we slid into our last wait for baby girl.

I was exhausted from the intense (too much pitocin) contractions and was advised by our awesome Labor + Delivery Nurses to sleep (“if you can”). I closed my eyes and took steady breaths through all contractions. Though I did have an epidural, it was mild enough so that I could still feel her move and feel my body adjust. I wanted to know where she was.

I vividly remember when my body went through transition (the last stage). My family was having a conversation in the room and I braced myself, eyes closed, laying on my side. It was (even with an epidural) intense. I had to breathe through each contraction and couldn’t find the energy to call Austin over for a hand.

After my body went through transition, she was finally in position and I felt MUCH better. The nurses came in and confirmed!

Then …it was show time.

I’d be lying if I told you I wasn’t nervous in that moment. I was. Again, even though I had so much TRUST, I still kept thinking “oh my goodness, a giant baby is about to COME OUT OF ME!?!” So many things were flying through my mind, but what I found ultimately comforting was the thought that millions upon millions of women have been here before …they’ve done this. I can do this, too.

Our nursing staff popped in to say that I was pretty close and that my neighbor there in the hospital (who they were also caring for) was in my exact same stage of labor. They told me that, because this was her 3rd baby, she’ll likely need less time than me – so they were going to go deliver her first, then come back for us. My amazing (strong, fearless, no-fuss) Mom instructed them, “don’t go far! Us Garcia women do NOT need long.”

…she was right.

Our interim nurse asked for a “practice push,” and then yelled, “STOP PUSHING! I need to call your doctor right now.”

My Mom smirked, “I told you.”

My incredible Ob GYN actually has an office in our hospital, so she walked in a few minutes later with our L&D nurses. They all giggled that they were wrong about the timing. Everyone donned their gowns (which my husband describes as the hospital equivalent of fishing waders), got me into a high-knee position (which felt natural for me), and prepared to welcome our sweet girl into the world.

That’s when I started shaking …almost uncontrollably. Was I cold? My Mom kept covering me with blanket after blanket, but the shaking continued. I think it was adrenalin. I was at the starting blocks, waiting to hear the gun fire, ready to listen to my coach and book it down this sprint (maybe marathon?) of meeting baby.

dark haired woman in a hospital bed with nurses and family around her

My doctor took her seat and said, “okay, Cassy! Let’s meet this sweet girl! I want you to take a deep breath, then give me one BIG push.”

I took a big breath, centered, tapped into my going-for-a-deadlift-PR roots, and pushed with all my might.

Everyone wow’ed, cheered, and told me that I’d done a fantastic job! I soaked up every encouraging word (#wordsofaffirmation), re-centered, and when she told me to push (at my next contraction), I gave it my all …again.

She’s so close, Cassy! You’re doing SO WELL!” – my doctor

You’re doing so great, babe. You got this.” – Austin

You can do this, Cassy.” – my Mom

The next contraction rounded and my doctor said, “here we go! give this one a really big push……… keep pushing! ………she’s almost there! ………her shoulders are almost through! ………don’t stop!

I heard my doctor (a mother of 4 herself) say a sweet, smiley, “well hello there.

After one of the greatest physical efforts of my life, where I gave my all …and then gave even more, I felt her lifted from my body.

She was born! Nurses rushed over, my doctor said “look down, Cassy! It’s your baby girl!

I couldn’t look down. I couldn’t lift myself. I REALLY gave that last push everything I had, so my husband pushed up my shoulders and I peeked down to see her. Her first experience with air, her scrunched face, wet hair, tiny hands …oh my God, it’s her!

mother with newborn baby on her chest

She was quickly placed on my chest (after we removed the pile of blankets) and I couldn’t believe it. She was so wet, covered in white vernix, and immediately calmed when she nestled into my bare chest. We waited a few minutes before clamping her cord, then Austin performed his Dad honor of cutting it (which, he said, was more like cutting a spongy rope than clipping a straw). I just held and marveled at her while the team finished up their duties.

cutting the umbilical cord

The rest of what happened was a blur, but Austin happily retold every detail when I was ready to hear it (11 whole days later). He joked that there were 3 real births: Graysen, the wall of water, and then the placenta. He said that after Gray came out, a “tidal wave” followed. He couldn’t believe that so much water was in there and that he then understood the waders. I remember there being a moment, when Gray was on my chest, that I felt a tug followed by a good amount of pressure. I can’t remember if I pushed or not (it really was a blur), but the placenta was delivered and that hurt coming out more than I expected! The way Austin tells it, the placenta was surprisingly MASSIVE. He jokes that “they pulled out this tiny silver bowl to put the placenta in and that sucker didn’t fit! I told them that they were going to need a bigger bin!

After I birthed the placenta, I looked down and saw that my doctor had a big hook needle in one hand …I didn’t want to know. Before having a baby, the thought of tearing really freaked me out. I wasn’t ready to know exactly what happened (hence the 11 days that passed before I would let Austin tell me the full story). Turns out, I had a 2nd degree tear. It made recovery painful, but it healed well without any complication.

mother holding newborn baby

mother and father touching newborn baby fingers

newborn baby with hat

daddy holding newborn hand

mama resting with baby on her chest

mother sitting up in hospital bed holding a swaddled newborn

After Her Birth

I was going to leave this part out, because I really didn’t think it was relevant …but my friend Diane encouraged that I consider sharing this part of the story with the hope that it may comfort anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation. If you’re there or been there, I really just want you to know that you’re not alone. You see, her hours after birth (as I now understand), weren’t very typical.

Let’s give away the ending first: she was perfectly healthy and had NO REAL ISSUES. All the tests run were negative for complications. (praise)

My first parenting medical experience with Gray earth-side revolved around a few topics.

First, she grunted at birth. Turns out, she’s just a very vocal infant, but one less-than-thoughtful nurse warned us (as we were gushing over her little noises) that grunting can be a sign of “congenital heart disease.” When she said that, with my minutes-old infant on my chest, my own heart skipped a beat …and my Mom looked like she might murder the well-meaning woman. Another nurse reassured everyone that all relevant tests would be run, not to worry.

Second, Graysen was born right at 9 pounds …which put her on the risk spectrum for low blood sugar. The way I understand it, bigger babies are suspected of eating really well in the womb, and are potentially at risk for too-low blood sugar once they turn to Mom’s milk. So, she needed her blood sugar tested ever 2 hours (after each feeding). Poor angel baby had her heel pricked every 2 hours. From my own research, I understand that newborns aren’t very sensitive to pain (a beautiful design because birth can’t be very pleasant) …but it was still no fun seeing her pricked. All blood sugar results were in normal range.

Third, Graysen and I BOTH ran a slight fever at her birth. My Mom told me that she actually ran a fever with all three of her girls and that it was likely the exertion. Either way, we needed to rule out infection. A blood culture was in order, which meant that they needed to draw a tiny tube of blood from Gray. THIS part of the story I missed out on, by my husband was there. As I sat in my recovery room, eating the fajitas my sister brought us for dinner, Austin went with Graysen to the nursery for her blood draw. After hearing the story, I’m glad I wasn’t there …because I have a feeling I would’ve been pretty upset. After drawing her first tube of blood, it coagulated before they mixed it properly. So, the nursery nurse on duty had to draw AGAIN. I know things happen like this …but dang, that would’ve been hard to see.

How was I feeling through all of this? Honestly, we weren’t worried. I was thankful that, if there were any complications, we were in the best possible place for speedy help.

We kept Gray in our recovery room, Austin slept on the couch, and we enjoyed our first 2 days as an expanded family. We took advantage of the help/space and, even though I was feeling good about breastfeeding her already, we requested a consultation with the Lactation Specialist on staff (she was WONDERFUL). Her test results trickled in as all negative and our hopes were confirmed. Thank you, God.

proud father holding swaddled newborn

mama laying in hospital bed smiling in the the camera while newborn baby rests on her chest

My Mom with Gray:

proud grandmother holds swaddled newborn and looks down smiling

swaddled newborn

Austin’s Mom with Gray:

proud grandmother holds swaddled newborn

sleeping newborn

newborn in hat and clothes

Her Name

The last part of our story is the shortest! Like many baby-hopefuls, I’ve had a long list of names on my phone for a while (since I married Austin). At one point, while I was pregnant with Graysen, Austin and I were in the car on our way to San Angelo to visit his family. It’s a 3-hour drive, so the perfect time to start brainstorming baby names. I offered to read a few names off my list and Austin stopped me at the first name, “Graysen.” Though, not necessarily a namesake, we have a friend named Graysen. She goes by Gray and is just a lovely, lovely human. It felt like an old, from the vault name that our daughter could mold in any way she chooses. Austin also loves the name Joy (also my middle name) and really wanted her to have it, too. Though giving her my middle name felt a little Gilmore Girls, I trusted his instinct.

Now that we’ve gotten to know her (almost 6 months old) I can’t imagine her having any other name. She is such a Graysen Joy, such a Gray. She’s spunky, has a sense of humor, is more patient than we deserve, and still loves to talk and snuggle.

Graysen Joy, you’re a dream come true.

That’s the story! Thank you for being a part of it.

With so much love,

Cassy + Family <3

Meet the Author
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Cassy Joy Garcia

HOWDY! I’m Cassy Joy and I am just so happy you’re here. I’m the founder, Editor-in-Chief, and Nutrition Consultant here at Fed and Fit. What started as a food blog back in 2011 has evolved now into so much more.
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  1. Heather Baham says

    Heather Baham —  07/08/2018 At 07:22

    well this beautiful story brought tears to my eyes and made me so excited and oddly at peace for my first delivery to come in December. Thank you for sharing!
    I would love to read about your birth wishes as well!

  2. Marie says

    Marie —  07/08/2018 At 07:51

    A beautiful story for a beautiful family!!! Huge congratulations and thank you so much for sharing!

  3. Sarah says

    Sarah —  07/08/2018 At 08:03

    Such a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing your experience. I had my first little one at the end of March and I loved following you during pregnancy! I shared my birth story over on my blog and the positive feedback was so heartwarming. Gray is absolutely beautiful, all the best to you and your family!!

  4. Kahlie says

    Kahlie —  07/08/2018 At 08:04

    This is so sweet it made me tear up too thinking of my son’s birthday a year and a half ago. You guys are just the best. Thank you so much for sharing! 🙂 <3

  5. Cassie Kellison says

    Cassie Kellison —  07/08/2018 At 08:07

    I took my morning cup of coffee and sat outside under the trees to read this beautiful story, your birth story sounds so similar to my first son!
    Thank you for sharing, I teared up a few times.

  6. Bobbi says

    Bobbi —  07/08/2018 At 08:12

    Beautiful story! Thank you for sharing.

  7. Alyssa says

    Alyssa —  07/08/2018 At 08:18

    Beautiful. I cried. You have such a way with words.

  8. Cassie says

    Cassie —  07/08/2018 At 08:22

    Thank you for sharing! Hearing your story does make me feel a lot less anxious about our first baby coming in December!

  9. Lauren says

    Lauren —  07/08/2018 At 08:52

    My 8 month pregnant self sobbed during this whole story. Thank you so much for sharing this story. And, I would love to see your birth wishes! As a first time mom I am trying to gather as much information and listen to as many stories as possible! ❤️❤️❤️

  10. Laura says

    Laura —  07/08/2018 At 08:57

    Thank you for sharing! Such a beautiful story!

  11. Lauren says

    Lauren —  07/08/2018 At 09:00

    I’ve been waiting so patiently for when you would be ready to share! She’s so beautiful and it was so nice to read the beautiful story of her birthday! Thank you so much for sharing this very personal piece of your family’s story with us all!

  12. Ky says

    Ky —  07/08/2018 At 09:27

    Thank you for sharing and being open and honest!!! Beautiful story. I’m 27 weeks along and can’t wait to meet him. Your story gives me inspiration 🙂

  13. Christine D’Angelo says

    Christine D’Angelo —  07/08/2018 At 09:29

    Awwwwww!!! Thank you for sharing this beautiful story! As the mother of 3, it brought me to tears and brought back all the memories of all 3 births!!! It’s such a magical experience unlike any other!!!!

  14. Celeste Loria says

    Celeste Loria —  07/08/2018 At 09:37

    Thank you so much for sharing your precious and personal experience! I’m 40 weeks and 1 day today and beginning to get nervous at the potential of making it to our induction date. Your story is very reassuring!

  15. Bethany says

    Bethany —  07/08/2018 At 09:46

    It was so great to read this after hearing you on Juli’s podcast! This was real, honest, and informative. Thanks for sharing!

  16. Sara T says

    Sara T —  07/08/2018 At 09:50

    Congratulations Cassy and Austin. I’m an obgyn in residency and I have to say I tremendously appreciate your willingness to allow modern medicine into your birth “plan”. Pregnancy can encompass so many things – I think being so honest and open that everyone’s needs and wishes are different is so important and it’s a message that sometimes gets lost in the healthy/natural community. Your post made me get all choked up! I wish your family all the happiness in the world.

  17. Angie says

    Angie —  07/08/2018 At 10:08

    Holy cow, what a sweet story! I love seeing and reading about all of the love your family shares. Gray is blessed to have you as parents and to be a part of your family!

  18. Leah says

    Leah —  07/08/2018 At 10:14

    Beautiful! Thank you for sharing all these details. What a blessing!

  19. Kelli @ Hungry Hobby says

    Kelli @ Hungry Hobby —  07/08/2018 At 10:40

    You know what I love about this story? As a member of the healthy living community and 25 weeks pregnant I feel the pressure for being natural and distrusting medical intervention. I think you shared your trust for the professionals beautifully, that’s what I want for my stories as well! confidence in both myself and the natural process as well as the advance in medical developments in the 21st century! Congrats on your beautiful baby girl and thank you for sharing your story!

  20. Sierra says

    Sierra —  07/08/2018 At 10:44

    Cried just about every word of your story. The pictures you shared are so very sweet. Thank you for letting us into your life so vulnerably and kindly. Thank you so.

  21. Katie Long says

    Katie Long —  07/08/2018 At 11:00

    Goodness, such a beautiful wonderful story! Thank you for taking the time to share. We are expecting our first child, a son, in November and I am struggling through decisions around our birth plan/wishes. I so appreciate hearing your perspective and you sharing how you prioritized knowing that you can plan all you want but sometimes things end up different due to circumstances. Thank you for being bold and sharing your faith. At times, it’s so hard to remember that we are not in control and that God has already gone before and taken care of the plans. I would love to see the list of things/snacks that you took with you to the hospital! Thanks again for sharing Cassy! This story brought so much joy and excitement for what is to come!

  22. Ashley says

    Ashley —  07/08/2018 At 11:24

    I love this! Thank you for sharing!

    PS: I wrote to you while I was in the hospital about to be induced and nervous, 5 days after Graysen’s birth, and you sent me a sweet note of encouragement. Thank you! So kind of you to send reassurance especially in that sleepy newborn haze.

  23. Melissa says

    Melissa —  07/08/2018 At 11:43

    Oh, Cassy Joy, thank you so much for sharing Graysen’s beautiful birth story. It brought me to tears several times as there are so many similarities between her story and that of my firstborn’s. As a forty-four year old who is relatively new to this way of healthy living, I’ve felt somewhat (unintentionally, I’m sure) shamed by the “experts” and traditional medicine “bashers” for the choices I made at the births of my four children. Hearing your story brought me relief and I so agree that it is such a personal thing. No judgment, we just need to have love and support for one another in those choices. God bless you and your beautiful family. It was an honor to be able to read your story — well worth the wait!! 🙂

  24. Julia Williams says

    Julia Williams —  07/08/2018 At 11:49

    What a beautiful story! Had tears in my eyes as I was reading it and it took me back to my boys births! Had all the feels! Thank you for posting such a personal story! God is good, isn’t he??

  25. Marcia says

    Marcia —  07/08/2018 At 11:56

    What a beautiful story!! Such a gift to you and for Gray when she is ready to hear it. I wrote out my story for each of my girls in a photo book and they LOVE reading it with me the night before their birthdays! I love this tradition and hope it continues for a long time. They are 8 and 10 right now. <3

  26. Lauren says

    Lauren —  07/08/2018 At 12:01

    I am 4 months pregnant with my first baby and although I have followed you for a long time and have loved everything, I am so thankful for you sharing so much about your pregnancy and birth! It can be a scary, I dont know what in the world i am doing, process but I have felt like you have been a friend through it all.

    Your birth story made me laugh and cry and feel confident in my own story when the times comes. I love following you and your family. Thank you so much for letting us all be a little part of it!

  27. Kelsey says

    Kelsey —  07/08/2018 At 12:06

    LOVE! Love, love, love. You and your family are just incredible. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story with us. So many blessings!

  28. Sabrina says

    Sabrina —  07/08/2018 At 12:59

    The blood sugar testing thing must either be new, or vary by hospital. My oldest (now 6.5) was 9lbs 3oz and they did not check his blood sugar at all (he did also have the slight fever thing). Of course she was big being 42 weeks though! Congratulations on your beautiful girl!

  29. Kat K says

    Kat K —  07/08/2018 At 13:29

    What an awesome birth story! Congrats to all of you.

  30. Amanda says

    Amanda —  07/08/2018 At 13:41

    Thank you for sharing! Makes me feel more at ease for our first delivery in August. This also had me crying tears of joy and both of your middle names are perfect!

  31. Krin Ohman says

    Krin Ohman —  07/08/2018 At 14:18

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful story.

  32. Lindsey says

    Lindsey —  07/08/2018 At 14:18

    Such a wonderful story! Thank you so much for sharing this especially since I will be giving birth to our first in about 2 weeks! I am struggle with our birth plan and would love to see more of your birth wishes which is what I’m going to call it from now on!

  33. Celia says

    Celia —  07/08/2018 At 15:42

    Great story, and it’s so refreshing to have a mom be confident about her own birth decisions! I also learned the same lessons re: “the birth you want” from other women before i delivered my first, so I constantly reminded myself that it’s not in my control!! I hoped for a zero-intervention all-natural in-hospital hypnobabies birth, and what I got was an induction at 42+3, 24 hrs of unmediated pitocin-induced contractions, followed by an emergency caesarean. And guess what? I was fine with that, because that was the birth my daughter and I needed! She was so healthy and happy and I felt so good knowing that we were able to get her out when it was time to and blessed to have all the wonders of modern maternal and neonatal medicine to help us.

  34. Lindsey Pratt says

    Lindsey Pratt —  07/08/2018 At 15:58

    What a lovely birthing story Cassy Joy, it’s beautiful because it’s yours. My favorite saying is, “He’s in charge from here on out and I’m honored to be along for the ride.” I’m going to use that as my mantra for my second birth in August. Thank you for sharing. God bless you and your family

  35. Sara says

    Sara —  07/08/2018 At 16:05

    Cassy this was amazing! Brought tears to my eyes multiple times. Thank you for sharing all of the details – educational in the BEST way. Please DO share your hospital wish list!

  36. Liz says

    Liz —  07/08/2018 At 17:21

    Thank you Casey for your story. Your description of the days leading up to and the birth of your daughter made it so easy to relive my birth of my son-also late by 10 days,induced labor,and the physical and emotional rollercoaster of the pushing and delivery. I’ve been following you for several months now,but you solidified for me why I love who you are and what you do.

  37. Sara says

    Sara —  07/08/2018 At 19:41

    Loved all of this! Thank you for sharing. It brought tears to my eyes and makes me so excited to go through this with my first baby in January! ❤️ I love your blog and I love your family. So precious!

  38. Cathy Sheen says

    Cathy Sheen —  07/08/2018 At 19:55

    Cassy, I loved reading the sweet story of the day that you and Austin were given Gray. Like your other readers, I cried. It was such a special and beautiful day; the day Grayson Joy became a part of all our lives. CC and Pop

  39. Katie says

    Katie —  07/08/2018 At 19:58

    I have no words. I sniffled through the entire thing. Thank you so much for sharing these precious memories with us!

  40. Melissa Chaddick says

    Melissa Chaddick —  07/08/2018 At 21:25

    This makes me want to have a third baby. Such a precious story.

  41. Alison says

    Alison —  07/09/2018 At 08:05

    This is an amazing story Cassie! Thank you for sharing! I am pregnant with my 2nd and this just brought back FLOOD of memories of my first birth. Wish you all the best 🙂

  42. Jenn says

    Jenn —  07/09/2018 At 08:47

    I loved reading every single word! I wish I was as patient and at peace with my son taking his time to make his debut back in November. Thank you for sharing!

  43. Courtney says

    Courtney —  07/09/2018 At 09:51

    Thank you for sharing!! Love this so much. Would love to hear more how y’all made some of those other detailed decisions about cord clamping, etc.

  44. Jacque says

    Jacque —  07/09/2018 At 11:15

    Since having my baby girl this March I love reading birth stories. Thank you for sharing! I teared up a bit. Birth is a fascinating experience. I love watching your IG stories with gray and gus (they’re my favorite!) thanks for sharing those as well! Keep being an amazing mama and human being! You’re a Rockstar!

    P. S. Joy IS a great name, that’s what we named our little. Joy Belle. ☺ ♥

  45. Christine says

    Christine —  07/09/2018 At 11:36

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful birth story! I LOVE reading/hearing birth stories (and telling my own, now I have 2!), and was really looking forward to yours. I love your attitude and mindset, and it inspires me to be more positive and accepting of what I cannot control 🙂 Congrats on your sweet baby girl!

  46. Beth says

    Beth —  07/09/2018 At 12:22

    Literally cried from the start of your dad asking if it “was an ouchie”…. our 2 year old lets us know when she has “an owie” and I was just imagining walking her through this beautiful journey someday. Such a gift from God! Thank you so much for sharing! Thankful you have been blessed with a healthy family!

  47. Ashley says

    Ashley —  07/09/2018 At 13:51

    Thank YOU for sharing this beautiful story! I cried tears of joy for you the whole way thru! So incredibly happy for you and your beautiful family.

  48. Angeline says

    Angeline —  07/09/2018 At 14:49

    Thank you for sharing this beautiful birthing story. I enjoyed reading it. I teared up a few times. I gave birth to my second child (a baby boy this time around) in December. I can relate to your birthing story. Graysen is beautiful! I love her smiles! You are amazing and you look fabulous! I hope to meet you someday. All the best to you and your beautiful family.

  49. Paige says

    Paige —  07/09/2018 At 15:25

    As a new mommy to my baby girl (Violet), your birth story brought tears to my eyes and made me think back to two short weeks ago when she came into the world. Like Graysen, she came arrived after her due date but right when she needed to.

    I’ve enjoyed following you and Gray as she’s grown and love all of your tips and new mommy advice!

  50. Chelsea says

    Chelsea —  07/09/2018 At 18:31

    Beautiful story! Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with all of us. I don’t know if you have another post on this, but what sorts of things did you do to prepare yourself for the stress/pain of labor & delivery? I’m expecting my first in September and would love any tips you have! Thanks again for sharing!

  51. Erin says

    Erin —  07/10/2018 At 05:16

    Thank you for sharing, a beautiful story!!

  52. Elle says

    Elle —  07/11/2018 At 09:24

    Aww this is such a beautiful story!! It’s so reaffirming to read- thank you for sharing!! I’m not pregnant but it’s not too too far out on the horizon. I’m also a big time list-maker/planner and I can see myself going nuts if things went “off plan”. This is a much much healthier approach to the whole process and I’m totally going to adopt it one day. Congrats on the beautiful baby!

  53. Rachel Eslick says

    Rachel Eslick —  07/11/2018 At 17:27

    What a touching and beautiful story! I read this ON my baby girl’s ‘s due date (July 8) and I’m patiently waiting for her to arrive. Thank you for the encouragement to stay positive and trust that everything is going to unfold at exactly the right time. Your daughter is gorgeous!!

  54. Danielle Reder says

    Danielle Reder —  07/11/2018 At 19:59

    This was beautiful and made me cry on my train ride home. My sweet little boy is 8 months old so I relate to this, so much.

  55. Kristy says

    Kristy —  07/12/2018 At 19:46

    Thank you so much for sharing something so close to your heart and soul! What a blessing!

  56. Jamie says

    Jamie —  07/13/2018 At 13:43

    Wow, Cassy. Thank you for sharing. You are truly an inspiration of faith, love, and courage.

  57. Sharon says

    Sharon —  07/13/2018 At 13:45

    Well, you have quite the memory young lady! Such detail at such an eventful time! Your brain must be amazing. I could never remember all that. Yep, made my cry too! My youngest daughter had her first baby, a girl, a year before you, and her baby also weighed in at 9 pounds. I don’t recall if she went past her due date. I wasn’t invited to the birthing. My daughter thought that should be just for Mommies and Daddies. That broke my heart but at the same time, I didn’t miss watching my daughter be in that kind of pain so I got over it quickly. I had my first child without anyone but Daddy and I really wanted my Mom there but we were 2000 miles away. I had a C-section anyway due to an old broken tailbone that would prevent a natural birth for a baby over 5 pounds. No chance of that happening. Your little ones photo looks very similar to my granddaughter. I guess 9 pound newborns have a similar look. My babies were all 8 pounds but my daughters grew up to be much taller than me so there babies were bigger than mine.

  58. Sharon says

    Sharon —  07/13/2018 At 13:48

    Didn’t catch my typos until after I hit the submit button. Please feel free to correct. I can spell, but can’t type or proofread well. You can delete this after you see it.

  59. Michele Palmer says

    Michele Palmer —  07/13/2018 At 13:54

    LOVE!!! Thank you for sharing this story! I loved loved loved it! Creating a beautiful and precious life is so so miraculous. She is beautiful!!! Congratulations!!
    Gus has to be the proudest big brother! :0)

  60. Veronica M. says

    Veronica M. —  07/13/2018 At 14:12

    Loved reading your story. I think we had the same anethesiologist Welcome Gray!

  61. Jessica Suazo says

    Jessica Suazo —  07/13/2018 At 14:19

    Such a beautiful story! I fully enjoyed it. So happy for you guys!

  62. Jennifer Withrow says

    Jennifer Withrow —  07/13/2018 At 14:22

    Love every bit of it! Thanks for the info and inspiration!

  63. Courtney says

    Courtney —  07/13/2018 At 14:38

    Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this story with us! I laughed and cried…mostly joyful, awe-some tears. You are an inspiration!

  64. Leslie Aquart says

    Leslie Aquart —  07/13/2018 At 14:43

    What a perfectly beautiful story ❤️ Thank you for sharing. I cherish my children more every day and they are 22, 24 and 27! And like your mom and mother in law, I get to love on my grandson too!

  65. Jennifer says

    Jennifer —  07/13/2018 At 17:10

    So sweet! I have my mom’s middle name and we passed it down to my daughter as well. I love that 3 generations share a midddle name!

  66. Jaimee says

    Jaimee —  07/14/2018 At 14:39

    What a lovely story. Thank you for sharing.

  67. Melinda Key says

    Melinda Key —  07/14/2018 At 16:26

    So beautiful!! Thanks for sharing! I had my first child in May and am still in awe of how amazing/intense it all was…

  68. Cathy Garcia says

    Cathy Garcia —  07/14/2018 At 23:52

    Thank you for sharing Gray’s “Birth-Day” story; having an incredible presence of mind to recall so many special details. I could hear your Dad’s voice, asking if that was an “ouchie”.
    We are all so grateful for a healthy Mama and Baby!

  69. Brittany says

    Brittany —  07/15/2018 At 21:18

    This is beautiful. It gave me goosebumps in the best way. Your beautiful Gray was born on my little guys due date (he ended up arriving 6 days later) so I always feels a little sense of connection to you and your story when you talk/write about it. It’s been so fun following you along during our mutual pregnancies and births. <3

  70. Rachael says

    Rachael —  07/17/2018 At 14:45

    Congratulations! Thank you for sharing this. I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant, so any information like this is so helpful! And I would definitely be interested in your birth wishes!

  71. Liza says

    Liza —  07/22/2018 At 17:19

    I just got a chance to read your story. I do not have children so have no experience in what you mom’s go through but wow you told your story so beautifully. What a happy blessed family you have. Graysen is lucky to have such a wonderful family. I wish you all a beautiful life together!! No family is perfect but your positive spirit is sure to help make Graysen’s life so full of contentment and fun!

  72. Melissa says

    Melissa —  07/23/2018 At 14:56

    As a “non-Mum” I tend to skip over the baby blogs put out by my favorite food and fitness bloggers (out of a balanced mix of disinterest and feeling unintentionally left out). This one called to me simply because as an Instagram follower of F&F you can’t help but fall in love with the entire family. (That muppet Gus being a weekly favorite of mine.)

    Thank you for reminding me of that John Mayer song (what a great college flashback) and thank you for sharing your story. I welled up with tears during your positive affirmations portion. What a gift your tribe is. Congratulations CJG! Gray has one awesome Mom!

  73. Amy McManigal says

    Amy McManigal —  08/03/2018 At 12:39

    I’ve finally gotten around to reading this… 3 years later and I still have such overwhelming feelings about my own son’s birth story and I never know how I’m going to react to others. But I must say, you shared this whole story so gracefully. Thank you for sharing all the details and many of the thought processes behind them. It all sounds so beautiful in your family’s own unique way, and I think that’s just lovely. Congratulations on your sweet daughter 🙂 🙂

  74. Kim Wiginton says

    Kim Wiginton —  08/04/2018 At 10:10

    I finally settled down to read your story and what a beautiful story it is!! I just dropped my first born off at college (3 1/2 hours away) this week and your story brought (and is still bringing) tears to my eyes thinking about his birth. He definitely went “off plan” needing an emergency c-section, but he was healthy and happy and I know God’s plan is always best. I pray continued blessings for you and your family! Thank you for sharing your story! You are such a ray of sunshine and I can already tell Graysen Joy is, too! Blessings always!

  75. Amy Walsh says

    Amy Walsh —  08/13/2018 At 14:41

    Thank you so much for sharing your birth story, as someone who is planning for the birth of our little girl in October I definitely feel that push and pull between conventional medicine decisions and the health community as I try to prepare for our day. I would love to see your birth wishes, as this perspective has really resonated with me as we were trying to put down on paper some of our thoughts for labor and delivery.

  76. Lynne says

    Lynne —  08/18/2018 At 12:32

    I am 6 months pregnant with my sweet baby boy and reading this story made me cry! Such an exciting beautiful story! Congrats to your beautiful family Gray is just too cute!

  77. Ashley says

    Ashley —  03/27/2020 At 11:42

    Beautiful. I’m on my third baby who is due in July and I just felt all of this. Even teared up a little. Lovely story.

    • Brandi Schilhab says

      Brandi Schilhab —  03/27/2020 At 13:44

      So sweet…sending you all of the love for your soon-to-be littlest!